Love is a Verb
Updated: Sep 17, 2019
Before going to bed at night, try thinking of ways to show your love to your partner the following day. That may be as simple as sending an "I love you" text during the day or making a cup of tea to wake your partner. It might be a single flower as you walk in the door at the end of the day.
A warm hug and kiss before you leave the house, without any agenda (no comments or expectations), helps to build trust that every hug does not have to lead to something more. Do this consistently for one week and you will likely see a change in your relationship. Not feeling especially kind? It may help you to reach back into your memory and pull up some examples of rosier times. How did you behave when you first met? What did you, or your partner, do that has become a sweet memory of your life? Just turning your attention here can help shift your own mood, making the random acts of kindness easier. This creates a win/win rather than a lose/lose.